Miracles still do happen

It’s been six weeks since my last blogpost. And although people could’ve kept up with the current situation via my Twitter account, I’ve decided to make one more post on what happened in the previous weeks, since people asked for it in comments and via other channels.

The past weeks have been very, very hard. The fact that my wife could die (which was enough stressful on its own), organizing a lot of help, talking to hundreds of people over the past few weeks, dealing with a lot of kind people offering help but also a lot of idiots, etc, demanded a lot of me. This resulted in that I did not have a single moment for myself to take my mind off of what was happening. My children were also very upset about what happened and tested me way beyond my limits. Which is very understandable, but doesn’t mean it was fun. I found out what it was to have your body and mind running on adrenaline and having the adrenaline run out. But so far about me…

Last Monday it was exactly 6 weeks ago and this Tuesday my wife was formally discharged from the rehabilitation center. She won’t receive any outpatient treatment either. The part of her skull which they removed still has to be put back, but that’s about it. In 4 weeks we’ll have an appointment with the rehabilitation specialist about how things are going and to see if we think we still need some help. How about that?

And to think that the hospital asked me to bring a photo-camera on the Wednesday after it happened; they brought our daughter to her mother and advised me to take pictures of them both. So that when my wife would never wake up again, our daughter would have pictures of herself and her mother for when she was grown up. Believe me, that message wasn’t received well by me. And the pictures aren’t nice either, because my wife was still in induced coma and got mechanical ventilation. Afterwards I heard they gave her a 5% change of ever waking up and some doctors were certain it would never happen at all. They came very close to not operating her at all, because of the prognosis.

Before the first week was over they removed the mechanical ventilation. When I came onto intensive care that they, she immediately spoke to me and asked where I had been. I can tell you, that was about the happiest event ever for me. After that she pushed herself really, really hard to get out of bed and do things herself. Before 4 weeks were over, she had already taken a shower and dressed herself before the nurses came in to help her.

She was on the waiting list to get into Rijndam for (inpatient) rehabilitation, but we asked if she could stay at home while waiting for her rehabilitation. When she got into Rijndam almost everyone asked themselves why she was there, that’s how good she was doing. So after a few days and some observation the rehabilitation specialist asked us if we were okay with the fact that she actually didn’t need any help at all anymore. There’s no physical loss in any way and also cognitive there seems to be nothing wrong.

So now she’s at home and we’re trying to pick up life again where we left it, almost as if nothing has happened. Of course it’s nothing short of a miracle. The neurologist and nurses who are working for dozens of years on neurology haven’t seen anything that comes close to what happened to my wife. They can’t explain how it could’ve happened that she recovered so well, especially with the severity of the two intracranial hemorrhages she had. All I can say is that a lot of people prayed for her and that I’m more certain of it than anything else in life that He has listened. He showed us that miracles still do happen.

Naomi, Bart and Emma with Marith Marith Me looking pretty tired

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17 Responses

  1. I’m so happy for you and your family. All the best!

  2. Edward Bakker says:

    Wow, this is great news Dennis! Enjoy!

  3. Jean-Paul Smit says:

    Great to hear this news. I’ve been following your roller coaster ride for the past weeks on twitter and I’m happy for you and your family.

  4. Paul Gielens says:

    Geweldig nieuws Dennis! Geniet ervan, dat hebben jullie verdiend.

  5. Clemens Reijnen says:

    Super…dat zijn de betere wonderen

  6. Remco Hulshoff says:

    Gefeliciteerd met deze fantastische afloop! Probeer de rust en tijd te vinden om zowel van je nieuwe dochter als van je vrouw te genieten.

  7. Patrick Bes says:

    Dit is echt heel goed om te horen. En ik hoop dat het voor jou en je familie nu ook allemaal weer wat rustiger wordt. Geniet er maar van.

  8. Ian Thomas says:

    Fantastic – I’m so pleased that it’s all turned out ok.
    it meant a lot went you sent that card when my father passed away and your still there in my thoughts.
    Take some time for yourself make sure you’re the father you want to be for all those girls and the husband your wife woke up for.

    Ian

  9. Wim Bokkers says:

    Geweldig voor jullie allemaal. Zo te zien heb je een gezinnetje om trots op te zijn. Wees er zuinig op!

  10. Mischa Kroon says:

    Good to read everything worked out like this, I hope you now finally get to enjoy the newborn in the way it’s supposed to be 🙂

  11. laura furlong says:

    Im glad to hear things are getting better. Strenght and health to you both in the days to come

    Take good care of yourself XxX

  12. Joseph says:

    Definitely can relate to what you went through as I myself have dealt with this situation. Unfortunately for me it didn’t turn out the way my family hoped. But happy to see it does happen and people get through such difficulties.

    congratulations and may this remind you how fortunate you are to have your family. 🙂

    Your collegue,

    Joseph Castaneda
    TellUs Los Angeles office

  13. Dennis,

    I am so happy for you, your wife and the kids that miracles do exist!

    Wish you all the best.

    Sicco

  14. Tom Visser says:

    Indeed a miracle Dennis and if anyone deserves it, it’s you. Respect for the way you are always there for your family, in good times and bad.

    Tom

  15. Ray says:

    Wow thank goodness for that. Just saw your posts on this horrible life event. Wishing you all the best; my heart goes out to you and your family.
    Ray

  16. Gregg says:

    I hope your wife is feeling better. All the best to you and yours!

  17. chandradev says:

    For good people,God always help.

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